JoysOfMom-hood

 I was today years old when I realized that my secound son doesn't need me fighting his battles for him. My oldest is not finding it funny sharing his toys with his baby brother. It's a tough curve to manoeuvre and an uphill climb he is trying every possible way not to make. Me? Hehehe.  I am not bothered. He must learn to share one way or the other. After all, they're their own best friend and best brother. Till the end of their lives.  So quick gist here😉 This morning my oldest was taking  his toys out from the storage he keeps them in. The second was playing in a corner at the other side of the room.  But soon as he saw his brother unpacking the toys he ran over to him and began picking each toy he brought out, dragging them to himself.  My oldest attempt at diplomacy failed when he soon realised that his baby brother's grip is strong. Then he tried shoving but realised again to his dismay that, little bro stands right back up soon as he lands on his bu...

The morning i found out i was pregnant again, just 18 months after my first baby, I broke down and wailed inside the bathroom. I had missed my period for three weeks and I was beginning to worry that maybe it was my cycle acting inconsistent like it did some months, yet a part of me knew deep down that I could be pregnant and that worried me to no end. But I kept putting off the idea of buying the HCG stick to test my urine sample to either confirm my fear or allay them. On a careless gamble, I got the stick the other day and I went into the bathroom and peed on it.  I turned my back on the stick and muttered a little prayer hoping that only one line will appear when I looked at it again.  Five minutes of toture later, the two conspicuous lines told a different story. 

Motherhood is not the way Kim Kardashian portrays it. It's messy and fills your days with sleep deprivation.  Some days I remember to have my bath by 11pm at night when my baby had finally allowed himself to sleep.  Sometimes I gather the courage and I get up from the couch and manoeuvre my way through the land mine of different varieties, shapes and sizes of toys littered around the sitting room and make my way to the bathroom, stripping down as I go. I stumble into the shower and turn the heater knob to hot and close my eyes already anticipating the decadence of having a few minutes to myself in the shower. The jet spray hits my back and slush down my body. I sigh a relief and throw back my head. I run my hands over my face and reach for the soap. After I rub the soap, over my arms and face, or slips out of my hands and drop a to the floor. I groan and for five miserly seconds contemplate picking it up but I give up before I decide and make do with what is on my ...

Motherhood changes you. It does something different to you. Let's skip the goody emotional stuff and confront the part that no one wants to talk about. People mostly attribute every of our experiences to "the joy of motherhood." For example 'my baby has kept me awake through the night, three days in a row now. I feel like a zombie in a walking dead movie' They: "but that is the joy of motherhood." Right. To stay awake through the night and entertain them through the day. Add the house chores. Then rinse and repeat. For three days. Are you kidding me? Post delivery depression is real, so real for many moms. Forget that they still show up and shine teeth and act like they are put together, inside they have broken into different tiny pieces.  Most have lost themselves in the process. They can't seem to find a way out of the quicksand of deprived sleep, poopy diapers, 24/7 hands on care and needed attention, and overcoming the stormy days of ...

1.Smelling your baby's bum to perceive for poop? Super weird but do you care? Not in the least! 2. Cleaning your baby's runny nose with your fingers or the inner of your shirt, top or the end of your wrapper? Gross I know. But would you ever do it again? Probably yes.  3. A quick dash to the mall with your baby involves packing two of everything-a change of clothes, diapers, pacifiers, rattles, toys, his favourite blankie, Baby combs, cream and jelly, wipes, Baby food, water and a carrier or wrapper.  4. Choosing to buy clothes and toys and pretty much anything your child needs, sometimes wants in favour of a new pair of shoes, clothes, toiletries, getting a mani-padi or switching that months long hairstyle you've been sporting for ages. 5. Eating the remnants of your baby's food plates. Guilty as charged.👋 Why waste such good and expensive food? 6. Bathing or visiting the toilet alone is considered a priceless 'me time'. Oh the joy and freedom to t...